I can only imagine the pain and agony associated with a
parent losing a child. Accidents and
disease take their tolls daily, and unfortunately our kids are sometimes the
victims. Our family has had serious
disease issues in all three of our kids, but we praise God regularly that they
are still with us and functioning as normal mature adults. Each of those events brought us as parents to
appreciate how delicate life can be, and to constantly keep the prayer lines open.
Today I read a story about a family losing a teen-aged son
in an automobile accident. The young man
had made it to the hospital in an ambulance, but from the beginning of the ER
diagnosis, the family was given little hope for his recovery. In less than an hour, he died.
This was a Christian family, one that you would see almost
every Sunday in church. He was a kid
from the youth group, always friendly, fun-loving, well mannered, just the
picture of one that would some day marry and raise a family. But now, his grieving family stood beside his
lifeless body, as a hospital chaplain prayed, and his family sought answers.
The father said over and over, "It's not supposed to
happen like this." He tried calling
out to God but in those moments he was angry with God. When the words did come from his lips, nobody
in the room could blame him for his anger.
"God, you blessed me with a son and now I stand by a bed and watch
him take his last breath. Why, God? Why?"
As I said in the beginning paragraph, we can only imagine
the pain and agony associated with
losing a child. Let me also tell you it
is a time when even the closest of friends and relatives search for words to
say. The right words escape us and we
sometimes fumble and mumble things we have heard in other situations like this.
It was a few agonizing days after the accident, as this
grieving father was spending some quiet time, he realized something very
important. He was not the first father
to watch his son die. Something stirred
his thinking in the direction of God's son, dying on the cross, as the Father
watched, and grieved. His death was
paying the sin-debt for all mankind, yet the pain of grief continued.
Yes, the grief of the father in our story, and the grief of
his family continued, but this father connected with the Heavenly Father in a
way he had never imagined possible. He
could face every agonizing moment God was with him, understanding him, loving
him, and strengthening him. He later
confessed, "My new relationship with God allows me to understand what
being a father really means. I can face
the days and sleepless nights ahead because of my connection with the Father
above."
I have heard that grief affects us all differently, but in
this case, the loss of a son brought about greater understanding of life, and death,
and grief, and healing. The doubts and
fears were no longer present in his life.
Instead, he learned to walk with God, allowing God's direction and
guidance.
When we lose a loved one, the greatest of blessings come
when we allow God access to our entire being.
Yes, we may have good and bad days in the grieving process, but God will
never leave us, and through his love, we learn real hope and real healing. God bless.
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